Don’t Take Anything Personally

Last week I wrote about the first agreement–be impeccable with your word. This week I read the second agreement and listened to the corresponding podcast.

The second agreement is don’t take things personally. “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”

This agreement can be a little bit more difficult to implement. But I like what Don Miguel Ruiz says right at the start of the chapter–if you take something personally, then it is probably be cause you agree with or believe it.

What people do and say isn’t because of you–it’s because of themselves. Their opinions come from their life experiences and the agreements they have made.

Even decide to not take personally the opinions you have about yourself.

By taking things personally you are setting yourself up to suffer.

“You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.”

Some things you can do to not take things personally:
*know your worth
*don’t jump to conclusions
*give the benefit of the doubt
*live in a place of love
*remember that what someone says or does is about them
*ask questions to understand why you are taking it personally

How do you practice the second agreement?